It's Not What You Think - Episode 3, When You’ve Lost the Thread Back to Yourself

How easy is it for you to know what you actually want?

Not what makes sense. Not what everyone else needs. Not what you think you should want. What do you want?

In this episode of It’s Not What You Think, Julie explores what happens when we gradually lose the thread back to ourselves. We can become incredibly good at reading other people, meeting expectations and functioning in the world while becoming less connected to our own feelings, preferences and needs.

Julie looks at how this disconnection can begin, why it’s often rewarded as independence, capability or selflessness and how it can affect our relationships, decisions and ability to trust ourselves.

You’ll also explore some simple ways to begin reconnecting, not by reinventing yourself, but by noticing the small signals that may have been there all along.

In this episode:

• Why knowing what you want can become surprisingly difficult

• How early experiences can teach us to look outside ourselves for answers

• The difference between understanding yourself and actually being connected to yourself

• How your body can communicate what your conscious mind overrides

• Why reconnecting with yourself can initially feel uncomfortable

• How to begin hearing your own preferences, needs and internal signals again

Learn more about Julie’s work at JulieCochrane.com and explore Noma, emotional wellbeing support that helps you understand the patterns underneath your thoughts, feelings and reactions, reconnect with yourself and begin responding differently over time, at mynoma.health.